Are you sick of feeling awful after you have had an anger outburst? Are you ready to get rid of that feeling of regret? If you take some or all of the steps that I’m about to describe to heart and really put them to work you should be able to control your anger outbursts and start feeling better with this anger dealing issues.
The first thing you need to do is train yourself to walk away. Walking away will give you some cooling off time. You will then be able to figure out if your anger is justified and whether what just happened to you will mean anything to you tomorrow. Eighty percent of the time what happened will not make a difference and you’ll be able to forgive and move on.
Once you have decided that you need to do something about the situation, you will need to decide how you are going to handle it. If you are angry because someone said you were wrong about something, find the answer. If you were wrong, then apologize for blowing up over something you were wrong about and if you were right, do not rub it in the other person’s face. Instead apologize for acting the way you did and present the correct answer in a thoughtful way without accusing the other person of being stupid or anything like that.
If you find that your outbursts usually happen when you are put in a certain situation, then you should try avoiding those situations. For example, if you are predisposed to road rage then maybe try leaving for work a half hour earlier to avoid heavy traffic. In my case, I find that I tend to be more prone to anger outbursts when I’m in large crowds so I try to avoid them at all costs. I can’t always avoid crowds, but the event better be pretty special for me to expose myself to crowds and a possible outburst.
One last thing you will want to try to do is have a hobby or project that you enjoy or have been putting off set aside for you if you feel yourself ready to blow up. If it’s a hobby that you enjoy you will have something to look forward to when you walk away from a situation and if it’s a project you will be able to put all of your energy into the project that you’ve been putting off for months. Before you know it the project will be done and you will be so proud of the fact that you have finally accomplished it that you will hopefully have forgotten what you were angry about.